Rather than by Default, Live Life Deliberately

When I was a senior in high school it was expected for me to go to college and get a degree. It wasn’t that I had to go to an Ivy League school it was just expected that that is what was in store for me. Go to college, get a degree in something and get a job. That’s what you did in the late 80s. There wasn’t even really any talk about what my passion was and what I wanted to “be” when I grew up.

So I applied to 2 colleges that were a couple hours away and got into both. I literally chose the college I attended based on the name of the city.


It sounded so fancy. No joke that’s why I chose the school!

So I graduated from high school. Got my student loans and left home. Stayed in a dorm in a commuter school and CHECKED OFF THE BOXES. Remember the requirements to graduate ??‍?. It was a checklist!

So for 5 years (yes it took me a year longer than most even going full time) I checked off boxes and finished with a degree.

Much to my surprise – I entered the workforce with a “J.O.B” – one that needed a degree on paper, but in reality did not need any special degree. Once again just went through the motions and collected a paycheck.

In my late teens and early 20s I literally lived my life by default. CHECKLISTS – and lots of I guess I’m supposed to do that moments.

Then I started to wake up, I started to think about what I would LIKE TO DO. WHAT SOUNDS FUN??

It was time for me to live deliberately!

This was before I was introduced to the Law of Attraction and living life with purpose.

According to Abraham Hicks – In order to live a life deliberately you need to begin to tell a DIFFERENT STORY of your life. You have to tell a story as you now want it to be and STOP ? telling the tales of how it HAS BEEN or how it IS.

Tell the story you want to Experience!

To live deliberately, you have to think deliberately!

In your words, actions and and thoughts you must tell your story of how you want it to be. You have to FEEL GOOD while you tell it.

You have a split second to focus on the lack of what is missing OR choose to focus on what you WANT!

Here are some examples of what is or what is lack of vs what you want:

Health/Illness (absense of of health)
Happiness (absense of happiness)
Energetic/Tired (absense of energy)

I want to buy that vs I can’t afford that
I want to feel good vs I don’t feel good

I want to love my job vs I hate my job

We have a tendency to just tell it like it is. What is going on in our lives today.

But what if you changed the way you said things?

What if you told yourself

What You Wanted

How do we do this? How do we change our ways?

1. listen to what you tell yourself thoughout the day. Catch yourself in the middle of a statement that is contrary to what you want.
2. Tell yourself “clearly I know what I don’t want, but what is it that I want?”

I am fat
I want to fit into my jeans

My boss doesn’t appreciate me
I want to be appreciated

I can tell you I started practicing this naturally but yes of course as time goes by we tend to fall into our old ways. We tend to sabotage ourselves with negative talk.

Our days become consumed with what is lacking vs what we want in abundance.

Do you find yourself caught in this dilemma?

How to find Time Gaps in your day

How to find time gaps in your day

Anna Gray, RN

8 November 2017

Have you been guilty of saying “I don’t have any time to do anything let alone something for myself?

It’s so easy to fall into this trap saying “BUT…..

  1. I have to get up early to fix the kids breakfast
  2. Drive them to school
  3. Go to the grocery store
  4. Or Go to Work
  5. Pick them up, have them come home on the bus or have them in day care.
  6. Cook Dinner
  7. Bring them to Practice
  8. Make sure they Bathe
  9. Tuck them in
  10. Do your Laundry
  11. Maybe watch a little TV
  12. Maybe remember that you hadn’t taken a shower
  13. ……..and do it all over again

Guess what???

I am now going to be hard on you.

Let’s start with you my single momma.  #1 I know I don’t walk daily in your shoes and I absolutely know that you are doing DOUBLE THE WORK as anyone else.  But I am going to find you time.  I swear by it.  You will start to find those time gaps you are look for.  Those time gaps you need for yourself.  

Life is too short my friend to be tied completely to an agenda.  

You are not guaranteed tomorrow if you haven’t heard.

Let’s look at 24 hours in a day.  I am going share with you an example of my schedule so you can start to say to yourself throughout your day and ask yourself “what would Banana do?”

5:00am – alarm goes off

5:30am – roll out of bed

5:55am – have a cup of coffee

6:00am – leave the house for work

6:45am – clock into my shift

Could be 8am, could be 9am – 15 minute Break

Could be 10:30, 11:30, 12:30pm – 30 minute lunch break

Could be 1pm, 2pm, or none – 15 minute Break

7:15pm – Leave work

7:45pm – Home and dinner

8:30pm – 9:30pm – hang with my family, talk about the day, about any upcoming events, and give lots and lots of hugs

9:30 – 10:00 – Wind down for bed

10:30pm – Shower and bed

The Next Two Days do it all over again

Yes my husband brings the girls to school and picks them up on those days because it is just not possible with my schedule.

So I am going to show you that even on my busiest days I find a little “me” time.

5:25am – 5:36am – in my car listening to something uplifting.  Maybe a morning show, maybe a podcast or ebook.  But this mentally prepares me for the day. ..ME TIME!

8:15am – you know that 15 minute break I get at random times.  I take my cup of coffee and breakfast and sit by myself and listen to something uplifting.  For me it could be a business training or check in with my Club Members ….ME TIME!

12:00pm – that also rolling lunch break – It is a very tight 30 minutes for which I typically can be found outside the hospital soaking up the sun if its out while listening to something special or actually working on my business from my phone.  That 30 minutes is my focused time where no body bothers me…..ME TIME!

1pm Break – Same thing.  No need to mingle with work people, I need me time… so another trip outside to reach out to some friends and make me smile …… ME TIME!

10pm – Bedtime Shower……. I think about anything good that happened that day…. And do my best to only think of that…… ME TIME!

I just found you……….drumroll………..1 hour 30 minutes of ME TIME… even on my busiest of days.

I want you to note that on these days I don’t have the time or energy for a workout, I would love to but I am just keeping it real.   My sleep could also use an additional 1.5 hours a sleep these days.  But it is just not possible.

My other 4 days are off of work and include me taking over with mommy duties.

I’ll tell you some more great ways to find more time in your schedule if you are not working long days like these but clearly have issues with your time.

Kids Drop Pickup – get there 10 minutes early and play a personal development or humerous podcast

Laundry – ask around your local neighborhood groups if there is anyone looking for just a couple hours of work a week to do your laundry, fold it and put it away…….. This is a big secret and one that I will say I have been using for over 4 years…. I used to be embarassed to tell anyone that I did this but let me tell you it is by far the BEST $ I could ever spend…. Feel free to email me if you need suggestions on how to do this.

Kids Sporting Event – depending on the age of your kids.  If they are young and need you there.  Start building your own business.  You are able to watch your kids while you work on earning some extra part time income

I’ll tell you some more great ways to find more time in your schedule if you are not working long days like these but clearly have issues with your time.



If they are older, go to YELP.COM and search Chinese Foot Massage…… and then thank me later…. 1 hour dirt cheap… and you feel like a whole new woman




Go have coffee with a friend you haven’t seen in a while


Grocery Store – put those headphones in and listen to a podcast or a great Spotify Playlist.  Turn your mind off and stroll.


I have many more examples of where to find time gaps, if you would like my FINDING MY SELF CARE TIME GAPS TOOLBOX click here.


I think you are now equipped to find those spots of time where you will be tell yourself “what would banana do?”  and the next thing you know you will stop saying the words “I don’t have time”.  Your goal… remove them from your vocabulary my friend.

Why I opened a Facebook group called IdentityMe

Why I opened a Facebook group called IdentityMe

Anna Gray, RN

31 October 2017

My Journey to setting up an amazing Facebook Group

In August of 2017 I opened a Facebook Group named IdentityMe after going through the hardest self discovery year of my life.

You wake up one day and you are married for 19 years, have two daughters who are early teens and tweens, you have the house on the hill, the cars, the money in the bank and the one thing you discover you are lacking, your own Identity

What do I mean my Identity?

I mean that I clearly forgot the things I love.  I forgot the bands that I love to listen to, I forgot there were travel destinations on MY OWN bucket list.

I discovered I had morphed so much into a mom and a wife, I forgot about me. 

When I shared these things on my Facebook Page I discovered I was not alone.  I knew I needed to gather more women who were going through what I was going through and spend time with them, rediscovering ourselves.

This was the first group out of probably a hundred groups I have created that I was not going to be the teacher.  I was simply just one of the group.  I would be one going through the same things the rest of the group would be.

I knew I needed this group but since it wasn’t going to be just my group I reached out to my friends on my Instagram page to even help me name the group.  I wanted the group to define the group.  And IdentityME was born.

What I discovered as running this group for a few months now is that the quality of the group over the quantity is what has given this group legs.  The conversations and consistency of the women in this group, give me joy.  Everyday I wake up and see a post from someone in the club having an AH HA moment for themselves.  They are in a safe place to share it and are encouraged and given virtual big hugs and high fives.

What this group is not

A complaining fest.  You would think that because we have lost our identity, we would be in a constant state of bitterness and complaints.  It is clearly the opposite.  People are in there to inspire themselves, to pick themselves up.  This is not a rule in the group but it is clearly just the vibe. 

What kind of things do we share in the group?

When I started the group I actually sat down and envisioned what the group would look like and feel like but had no idea what type of content I would share.  But I knew the FEELINGS that I wanted for the group.

Once I had that, I knew that I did not want to create your typical Monday Motivation, Transformation Tuesday Posts.  This group was going to be different.

This group would house content of what I and the group were going through in my life, I made it my so much my mission to listen to what people were saying and create posts around this.

In the beginning it was just posts to allow people even the shy ones to step up and have fun.

I created many polls to hear what the group members were struggling with.  One of those things that members talked a lot about was the inability to journal but they knew the value in it.

I tried to run one Journal Challenge that totally flopped.  In hindsight it was confusing.  But I knew the need was still there.  So I decided it would be only 3 days in the middle of the week and it was not going to take them more than 10 minutes.  I created 3 topics to write on and I posted in the group.


So, do we talk about journaling all the time?  NOPE.  Do people want to join the group because they have seen my posts on my Bullet Book Junkie Instagram page?  YES.  But what I have found is that the same people that see the value in journaling are the same people who want to better their lives. (a post about Bullet Journaling)

Listening to my ladies brings me joy.  Making them smile brings me joy.  Sharing my own struggles makes me feel supported as if I was in someone elses group.

This group is my pride and joy and I can only hope that it grows the right way with the right people.  As I plan on nurturing it more and more everyday.

If you are looking at connecting with other like minded women, and are on the path of your own self-discovery then join the club.  We would love to have you!

Step by Step Coach Registration


What do I need to order when I sign up?

Anna Gray, RN, Los Angeles

24 October 2017

There are many ways to sign up as a coach.  If you haven’t read my WHAT KIND OF COACH WILL I BE or HOW TO SIGN UP AS A COACH make sure you read those first.
But now you are trying to decide what do I want to purchase on sign up to make my sign up worthwhile.

So I am going to break it down for you..


  1. Purchasing a Challenge Pack will ensure that your coach sign up fee of $39.95 is waived.
  2. Purchasing anything else but a Challenge Pack you will be paying the coach sign up fee of $39.95
  3. Coach Sign up fee covers your first month of your $14.95 coaching fee so with a Challenge Pack that first month is covered for you.

What does the coaching fees cover?

Quite honestly there are too many things to even list. You have a website and you have a TON of training resources that are by far worth more than your monthly fee.

Purchase Options

I will purchase a Challenge Pack
When you go through the coach sign up walk through HERE you will choose your Challenge Pack – My recommendation is the Beachbody On Demand Pack as you receive streaming rights to ALL BEACHBODY products for entire year + plus your first 30 days of Shakeology (your daily dose of nutrition)

Challenge Packs are by far the best value and you receive the most bang for your buck with one.

I will not be purchasing a Challenge Pack
You can skip through the challenge pack purchase and go straight to sign up and pay your Coach Sign up Fee.

Once you are signed up as a coach you can log into your account and choose which product you will purchase with your 25% discount.

Things to keep in mind when purchasing.

  1. If you would like to earn any sort of income you need to remain an “active” coach.  In order to do that you must meet monthly product volume requirements.
  2. In the beginning it is a merely 50 PV points a month.  This is equivalent to about $50 a month.  This can be your own purchases or those of your customers.  If you are drinking Shakeology every month you are automatically going to be meeting your active status as that is equivalent to 90 PV.
  3. If you are not drinking Shakeology every month, reach out to the coach who signed you up and they can give you PV point values for everything.
If you have any questions, feel free to comment below as I see all the comments I would be happy to help make this seamless for you.

How to sign up as a coach

How to sign up as a Beachbody coach

Anna Gray, RN

24 October 2017

So you are ready to do this.  You have read my blog post that defines what kind of coach you have decided to be HERE.

Now you need to know how to sign up.  Let’s start with who you are signing up with.

You will fall into one of three categories

  1. I am going to sign up with the coach who has helped me this far
  2. I am going to sign up with the coach who told me about coaching but I have never had an account with that coach before
  3. I am going to sign up as a coach with you because you seem to really know what you are doing (lol see what I did here)

If you are signing up as a coach with the coach who has helped you thus far you will need to

  1. Log into your teambeachbody.com account with your email address and password you signed up with before
  2. Click Be a Coach
  3. Choose A product to purchase on sign up
  4. Fill out your personal information and BINGO you are done.

If you are signing up as a coach with a coach whom you are not already “attached” to

  1. Log into your teambeachbody.com account with your email address and password you signed up with before
  2. Click Be a Coach
  3. Choose A product to purchase on sign up
  4. Fill out your personal information and BINGO you are done.

If you are signing up as a coach with me

  1. You are in the US use this link for sign up- https://www.teambeachbody.com/coach?referringRepId=30827
  2. You are in Canada use this link for sign up-https://www.teambeachbody.com/coach?referringRepId=30827
  3. You are in the UK use this link for sign up- https://www.teambeachbody.com/shop/gb/coach/signup?referringRepID=30827

If you are still wondering what to purchase on sign up click HERE